Dating Safety: Social media-a hmelhriatte nena inhmuh hmaa hriat tur.

 Social media (Instagram, Facebook, Tinder, etc.) kalphungah hian hmelhriat loh nen inbiak leh inhmauh hi thil thleng fo a ni tawh a. Mahse, i hmuh hma hian mahni invenhimna (safety) hi ngaihpawimawh ber tur a ni.

Hetiang hian inhmauh hma leh inhmauh laiin fimkhur rawh:

1. Inhmuh hmain finfiahna nei rawh

Social media-a an thlalak leh an nihna kha a tak lo a ni thei.

• Video Call: Inhmuh hmain vawi khat tal video call-in inbe rawh u. Hei hian a thlalak leh a hmel a tak a ni em tih a finfiah thei.

• Research: Google-ah emaw, social media dangah emaw an hming han 'search' chhin la, thil rinhlelhawm (fake profile) an nih leh nih loh en rawh.

2. Hmun vantlang (Public Place) thlang rawh

A vawi khatna atan chuan mi tamna hmun thlang ziah rawh.

• Hmun fal, a in (house), emaw motor chhungah te inhmuh loh tur a ni.

• Coffee shop, restaurant, emaw park mi an tamna hmun kha a him ber.

3. Mi tu emaw tal hrilh rawh

I kalna tur hmun leh i hmuh tur mipa/hmeichhia hming leh phone number kha i thian rin ber emaw, i chhungte emaw hrilh rawh.

• I phone-a "Live Location" kha i thian hnenah thawn la, i haw hma chu 'on' reng rawh.

4. Mahni thlirna (Instinct) ring rawh

I inbiak lai khan i rilruah "He pa/nu hi a rinhlelhawm tlat" tihna i neih chuan inhmuh tlat loh tur a ni. I rilru (gut feeling) kha a dik duh viau thin.

5. Inthlah tir nghal suh

I vawi khat inhmuhnaah i in thleng inthlah tir nghal loh a him. In i thlen hunah i mahniin emaw, taxi-in emaw haw la, i him tih i thian hrilh rawh.

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Fimkhur tur zual:

• Sum leh pai: Inhmuh hmaa sum lo dil che an nih chuan scammer an ni duh viau.

• Alcohol/Drugs: I in tur (drink) kha kalsan miah suh. Mi hmuh lohva thil telh a awlsam em em.

Summary: Safety first! Inhmuh hmaa mahni invenhimna i ngaihtuah hmasak kha 'over' a ni lo va, i hlutna leh i himna i ngaihpawimawh zawk vang a ni.

Online dating emaw, inhmel-hriat thar hlim hian mahni inven nan 'Red Flags' (thil rinhlelhawm leh hlauhawm thleng thei hriat lawkna) hi hriat a pawimawh em em. Heng a hnuaia mite hi i kawppui thar (date) lakah i hmu a nih chuan fimkhur viau rawh:

1. Inlaichinna vawm hmanhmawh lutuk (Love Bombing)

In hriat hlim atanga "Ka hmangaih che," tih leh, "Nangmah hi i ni, innei nghal mai ang," ti thut thut te hi rinhlelhawm an ni duh. Hei hi mahni thu-muala mi dah tumna (manipulation) a ni thei.

2. Thik thu chhia leh Inthunun tumna (Control)

• I thian kawm te a thik a, i phone min entir rawh a tih tlat chuan.

• Khawiah nge i awm? Tunge i hmuh? tih minit 5 dan zela a zawt reng che a nih chuan.

• I thuamhnaw hak tur leh i hmelhmang a sawisel fo a nih chuan.

3. I "No" a zah loh chuan (Boundaries)

I thil duh loh emaw, i nuam tih loh zawng i sawi a, chu chu zawm luvin a nawr lui tlat che a nih chuan chu chu 'red flag' lian tak a ni. Khum laiah a ni emaw, thil dangah a ni emaw, consent (remtihna) a zah loh chuan nakinah phei chuan a hlauhawm duh hle.

4. Dawt sawi fo leh Thuruk neih

A sawi tawh leh a hnu-a a sawi a inan leh si loh te, a nun hluia thil thleng a zep tlat te hi rinhlelhawm a ni. Mi rintlak chu a sawi leh a tih a inang reng thin.

5. Mi dang laka a nungchang (Treatment of others)

Restaurant-a waiter-te laka a thinrim vak vak a, emaw i hmuh loh laia midang a zah loh em em chuan, nakinah i lakah pawh a nungchang a lo chhuak thuai ang.

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Healthy Relationship (Inlaichinna Hrisel) tlem han tarlang thung ila:

• Zah tawnna: I duhdan leh i ngaihdan an zah thiam.

• In-rinna: Phone check sek ngai lo khawpa in-rintawn.

• Support: I hlawhtlinnaah an hlimpui che.

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Thurawn: I taksa leh rilru hriselna kha thil dang zawng aiin a pawimawh zawk. 'Red Flag' i hmu a, i rilru-in nuam lo a tih tlat (gut feeling) chuan chu inlaichinna atang chuan in-thiarfihlim hma kha a finthlak ber.